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Brenda Evelyn BAILEY
1930 - 2003 (73 years)
Has 1036 ancestors and 4 descendants in this family tree.
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Name Brenda Evelyn BAILEY Relationship 
with Teresa Ann GOATHAM Born 1 Jan 1930 “Electra”, 84, Main Ridge, Boston, Lincolnshire, England 
- GRO ref: Bailey, Brenda E q1 1930 mother's maiden name: Hambling, Boston RD 7a 636; GRO online index shows middle name as Evelyn
Brenda Bailey's birth certificate Baptised 20 Apr 1930 St. Botolph’s Church (“The Stump”), Boston, Lincolnshire, England - (baptism was on Easter Day)
The font in Boston Stump
Presumably my mother was baptised at this impressive fontGender Female Illness From 1931 to 1933 Dame Hannah Rogers Orthopaedic Hospital, Ivybridge, Devon, England TB in the Knee - Slipping on a lino floor my mother banged her knee and TB developed in the joint. She was in hospital for about 18 months, had her leg in a calliper until she was (I think) aged 17 and for the rest of her life had the inconvenience of a stiff leg, i.e. it was left with a slight bend in it, but she could not straighten it or bend it more.
The bacterium responsible was was probably Mycobacterium bovis, which causes TB in cattle, but was responsible for many instances of TB, especially the extrapulmonary ones before milk was routinely pasteurised. My mother then spent about 18 months in hospital. This was in the days before the National Health Service and she went to a special hospital / school in Ivybridge, which developed from a bequest by Dame Hannah Rogers who was concerned that children with physical disabilities were being denied an education. (History of the school)
She had been living in digs in Plymouth with her mother (her father being away at sea). Ivybridge was about 12 miles away, and I don't know how often my grandmother would have been able to visit but I understand my mother was so upset everytime she left at the end of a visit that visits were restricted to one a month.
With the involvement of a charity I imagine the charges were not large, but even so the cost led to my grandmother becoming ill; when she visited the doctor she was told she just needed a square meal, and was introduced to a "penny a week" scheme which enabled her to claim for the costs of my mother's care without starving herself.
Had she been a little older my mother's leg would have been amputated, had she been a little younger it would have been stiffened to be straight leg more quickly. As it was my mother had a leg which with just a slight bend in it, probably more useful for walking than the completely straight ones, definitely better than a wooden leg. The caliper she had till aged about 17 clearly this had to be replaced a number of times as she grew; one intended replacement was lost in the bombing of Exeter. The caliper protected the leg from damage so my mother enjoyed a freedom while wearing it that she didn't have later. She even cycled around a bit in Boston with her good leg pushing down and pulling up one pedal, the other hitting the caliper which wasn't quite held up enough to be out of the way!
One employer wanted her to be registered as disabled (sometime bet 1947-62) - good for him to be employing someone disabled but whether or not due to my mother playing down the limitations I don't know but she was not found to qualify as disabled. Walking was always more effort, and steps had to be taken one at a time (or at least, good foot first for each; when younger this was often 2 at a time). For most of my mother's life this wasn't very noticeable apart from when the terrain was more demanding e.g. walking up a steep hill. Later in her life when she became asthmatic, although the asthma was not severe, the existing extra demands of walking around meant the two togehter were more limiting, and my mother did register as disabled.
[ Source for the above: my mother, who told me verbally; obviously she must have been told most of this herself, so errors may have crept in, but I am sure that this is approximately correct]
[ source re bovine TB - see p5 (Gernez-Rieux) http://www.oie.int/doc/ged/d7402.pdf ]]
church From 1933 to 1941 St. Thomas’s Church, Keyham, Devonport, Devon, England - I can remember my mother mentioning both St. Mark's Ford and St. Thomas's Keyham; she attended Sunday School at one (I think St. Thomas's), I can't think why she would have mentioned the other.
She resumed contact with a Mr and Mrs Cawsley who ran the Sunday School. She talked of one (every?) Palm Sunday going up into the church to receive Palm Crosses - I think from the Sunday School in a crypt - or were there just steps up into the church?
Information about St. Thomas
Education From 1936 to 1941 Devonport, Devon, England Mrs Watts School Residence 1 Jan 1939 84, Barton Avenue, Keyham Barton, Devonport, Devon, England - The address (with date) that my mother wrote into a utility loose leaf notebook (notebook has a small pocket on the front, in which were a cutting showing Plymouth Hoe Lido damaged by bombing, and 2 tiny children's picture books - Snow White and Popeye.
My Mum and her parents lived in digs, they didn't own or rent the house.
Residence Jun 1940 59, Alexandra Road, Ford, Devonport, Devon, England - On her father's naval papers where the details of nearest known relative or friend are shown the address 84 Barton Avenue has been crossed out and replaced with this address; the change is dated 6/40.
Again, my Mum and her parents were living in digs.
Education From 1941 to 1942 Boston, Lincolnshire, England Boston High School Education From 1942 to 1947 Putney, Surrey, England Mayfield School Occupation From 1947 to 1963 Bank clerk and other clerical Occupation From 1963 Housewife Died 21 Jun 2003 Torbay Hospital, Torquay, Devon, England 
Death certificate for Brenda Bailey Cremation 30 Jun 2003 Torbay Crematorium, Devon, England Funeral 30 Jun 2003 St. Saviour’s Church, Dartmouth, Devon, England - My mother's funeral was a Requiem Mass, as was her wish.
A couple of years (?) before my mother died she and my father attended a funeral that was very much a meorial service, about the person who had died rather than a traditional funeral. My mother didn't like it and mentioned it to me - checking "You know Daddy and I want traditional funerals, don't you". Well no, I didn't, as she had never mentioned it before. "No, but I do now". I attended a funeral shortly after my mother's cancer was diagnosed, when she was in hospital to have a stent fitted. Visiting her later that day she asked "Was it a Eucharist?" - and then asked if I knew that she and my Dad wanted their funerals to be in the context of the Eucharist. Maybe a slightly unusual view of a traditional Church of England funeral!
I asked the rest of the family for suggestions for hymns. Silence. I suggested one. Agreed. Asked for ideas for a second. The same happened - in the end I choose all 4.
"Dear Lord and Father of Mankind" - my mother's favourite;
"Gracious Spirit, Holy Ghost" - the one my mother had choosen for my parents' wedding;
and two because of their suitability for a funeral:
"Jerusalem the Golden" and
"Jesus Lives, thy terrors now ..."
The choir kindly attended and asked what we would like them to sing. My mother was not over-found of choral music, but she loved an Orthodox settin g of the Lord's prayer that was on "Your Hundred Best Tunes" from time-to-time when I was a child - I think it was the Rimsky-Korsakov setting. More appropriate for a funeral is the Kontakion of the Departed, not by Rimsky-Korsakov but still in the distinctive Orthodox style, so I asked for that. I grew up with it being sung every Remembrance Sunday at the church where I lived as a child but it turned out the choir in Dartmouth didn't know it so it was a great compliment to my mother that they would take the trouble to learn it in the less than a week between my asking and the funeral. (I have since discovered it was part of the service when the War Memorial on which my closest relation to die in WWI, a brother of my grandfather, was dedicated)
After my mother's funeral the bells were rung (open) before and after - I was able to take part in the ringing afterwards, as the ringing room is entered from the gallery at the back of the church, where we had refreshments.
Buried 12 Jul 2003 St. Peter’s Church, Stoke Fleming, Devon, England - Burial of ashes as was her wish, in the grave also containing her parents' ashes
Grant of Administration 11 Nov 2003 Salisbury, Wiltshire, England Calendar entry - From Find a will website and I was the person granted admon. (Salisbury is a sub-office of the Winchester Registry)
Religion Anglican Patriarch & Matriarch 
William BAILEY, b. Abt 1724, (probably in or near), Kingsteignton, Devon, England, d. Jul 1817, Teigngrace, Devon, England (Age ~ 93 years) (4 x Great Grandfather) 
Mary HARRES, d. Yes, date unknown (5 x Great Grandmother)Person ID I2 All | Teresa's direct ancestors, England: Kent Group (in Go(a)tham One-Name Study), England: Kent Group - subjects of Go(a)tham One-Name Study, All in the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study , All subjects of the Goatham / Gotham One-Name Study, The descendants of Charles Court and Frances née Tapner, The descendants (and other halves) of Charles Goatham and Sybilla née Hunt, The descendants (and other halves) of George Goatham and Ann née Winch, The Inman eighth - ancestors and descendants of Philip Inman and Sarah née Craven, The descendants (and other halves) of John Prior and Amy née Reynolds, The descendants (and other halves) of Richard Whitehead and Mary née Grigsby Last Modified 13 Mar 2022
Father Henry ("Fred or Bill") BAILEY, b. 22 Jun 1899, 11, Stainton Street, Westoe, Co. Durham, England , d. 16 Oct 1984, Princess Alice Hospital, Eastbourne, Sussex, England (Age 85 years) Mother Florence Minnie HAMBLING, b. 2 Jul 1900, 62, Carlyle Road, Ealing, Middlesex, England , d. 24 Jan 1974, St. Mary’s Hospital, Eastbourne, Sussex, England (Age 73 years) Courtship From 1926 to 1929 - One Remembrance Sunday, I guess in about 1926, when Granddad was on the staff of Dartmouth Royal Naval College, he went with a colleague who was to play Reveille before the 2 minutes silence in Stoke Fleming (about 2 miles from Dartmouth).
There in the churchyard they met a civilian member of the staff at the college, Syd Huddy, who lived in Stoke Fleming. He introduced them to 2 local girls - my grandmother and a friend. They arranged a date for the 4 of them, my grandmother at first partnering the bugle player. It didn't take long for them to switch partners - and the rest is history.
My grandfather at first gave his name as "Fred". I believe making up a name was common practice. Then when he got seriously interested in my grandmother he folded his coat for her to see his true name. However, being used to calling him Fred she stuck with it, and he remained Fred - not just to her, but to most people outside of his own family (where he remained Henry) and work colleagues (where he was Bill - due to the old song and his surname).
Banns of marriage Abt Mar 1929 St. Saviour’s Church, Dartmouth, Devon, England To reflect Granddad's residence at Britannia Royal Naval College Married 1 Apr 1929 St. Botolph’s Church (“The Stump”), Boston, Lincolnshire, England 
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Family Eric Herbert John GOATHAM, b. 11 May 1921, 46a, Dornton Road, Balham, London, England , d. 23 Feb 2004, Salisbury District Hospital, Wiltshire, England (Age 82 years) Engaged Abt 1955 Balham, London, England Banns of marriage Jun 1956 The Ascension, Balham Hill, Malwood Road, Balham, London, England In the Parish my Dad lived in Banns of marriage Jun 1956 St. Luke’s Church, Battersea, London, England In the Parish my Mum lived in Married 7 Jul 1956 St. Mary’s Church, Balham, London, England - GRO ref: Goatham, Eric H J to Bailey, Brenda E q3 1956 Wandsworth RD 5d 1595
Certificate for the marriage of Eric Goatham to Brenda Bailey Children2 children Last Modified 27 Nov 2017 Family ID F2 Family Group Page | Family Chart
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Stories from Wartime Plymouth
I only came across my mother's memories after she died. Though I had heard her speak of some of this I didn't know about the tin of marbles, which sadly we don't now have.
I knew of her friend who was killed - my mother always remembered her and was pleased to go to a special service at St. Andrew's Church in Plymouth, I think in the 1990s, to remember the war victims.
My mother and grandmother were unscathed, and only lost some sheets that were at a laundry in the bombing of…
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